Dating and playing game
like freaking out waiting for him to text back for hours?Sure, that moment of complete relief when he finally responds is satisfying as hell, but you know you’re just going to go through that multiple more times before you hopefully and It sucks all the fun out of dating.You can protect yourself by learning the tell-tale signs of a game player and establishing firm boundaries until you know someone well enough to be more open. Signs of a man playing games include running hot and cold -- showing interest and then withdrawing -- as well as showing too much charm early on, making false promises and outright lying, writes psychologist Diana Kirschner in her article "Dating Games Men Play" on the website Self Growth.If a man constantly breaks plans with you, is overly difficult to reach or seems to be inconsistent in his interest, then he may very well be playing games.Narcissistic men tend to seek out partners who are easily dominated and controlled.
So I told him just that, and we left it on friendly terms.Here’s why I refuse to play dating games, and I always will: It’s exhausting. I hate the fact that if a guy I’m into texts me and I’m around and can respond right away, I’m encouraged not to because then I’m “too available.” The reality is that I’m legit laying on the couch in my pajamas, binge watching Netflix — but yes, I should definitely lie and pretend I’m too busy for him. I’d rather be upfront and honest right from the beginning.I don’t want some guy who needs to try to analyze if I’m actually interested when I know I am. Dating games might have been cool in high school, but as an adult, it’s completely pointless to play make believe.While some men play games out of fear of commitment or rejection, others may lack empathy or a desire for intimacy.
Some see relationships only as a way of building self-esteem, serving their self-interest or obtaining other personal benefits. Once you've identified a game-playing strategy, it is time to take back control.
Plus, if I don’t make it clear, he can easily swipe someone else who will. We deserve what we want, and we don’t need to sugarcoat it. We live in a modern, allegedly more evolved world, and yet we’re still holding onto the ancient logic we still need to take part in some long, drawn out (not to mention fake) mating ritual to keep a potential partner interested. Do as you say and say as you do, or get the hell out of my way.