Dating tips for dating a nacarcoleptic and bipolar girl
Those people who don't want to be with you because of bipolar disorder, it's not because you're insane or weird or out there.It's because they can't handle a challenge.“You can say I need to tell you something that's really important in my life and affects my life a lot.I'm doing fine and I've been told by my doctor and from my reading that I have every reason to believe that the prognosis is good.” If your date expresses concern, Jamison also suggests asking if they would want to come to your doctor with you to discuss it.“The ability not to take certain actions or words personally can help any relationship, especially one with someone with bipolar disorder due to the nature of the symptoms,” says Caroline.“I present it like I would present any other illness.If I suffer from migraines, my actions may come as a result of that.”“Try to know that when we're in a dark place, when we're distant, we're not pushing you away because we don't love you,” says Hannah.“We’re distancing ourselves because we’re having trouble trying to understand what's going on inside our heads.”At the same time, it’s important to know that when you’re dating someone who doesn't have a mental illness that they may never understand fully what you’re going through.
Romantic relationships with partners who have bipolar disorder (BP) are no different.Avoid blaming the illness for non-related daily behaviors. If you’re not able to keep plans or commit to things, avoid resting the blame on your illness. Calmly and logically talk through any extraordinary, illogical sudden ideas they might have.It’s possible to cancel just because you don’t feel like it or say no because you genuinely don’t like someone. Talk to your partner about the best course of action for before, during and after an episode since the solution can’t be sorted out when it occurs. Ask what triggers should be avoided, e.g., sad movies, specific social environments, alcohol or drugs. If that doesn’t work, distract them with a more manageable exciting idea, such as eating something new or visiting an undiscovered part of town. Before a significant episode, your partner may show some early indicators that their mood will change significantly.“There's a limited amount that you can understand about mania and depression” if you don’t experience them, says Jamison.“You have to be a good listener and you have to be compassionate.
You don't have to fix the person 'cause you can't,” says Hannah.
“It’s not fun, but it beats the alternative,” she says.